Causes of lack of initiative in adolescents

Most often, this problem manifests itself in the child's lack of desire to learn, nevertheless, this topic is one of the strongest worries of parents.
Motivation of activity.
The truth of life is that the more parents want something from their child, the more the child resists it. The parent is trying to solve the problem: what should he do to get his child to do at least something? The problem is that the stronger the pressure, the stronger the resistance. Thus, to solve the problem, it is necessary to find the reason for the resistance, and not increase the pressure on the child. The mistake of parents lies in the fact that the solution to a particular problem is needed by the parent, not the child. In other words, it is necessary to make sure that the child himself wants to achieve this or that goal. It is necessary to develop a child's curiosity from childhood, encourage his discoveries, engage in joint activities, and develop independence skills.
The origins of the problem of passive behavior lie in the child's initial upbringing. If a parent does all the child's duties for him (washing dishes, cleaning things, doing household chores), then the child will have no opportunity to gain life experience, as a result, he will not learn anything and, even worse, will not want to learn. The child needs to set specific goals, give him the opportunity to figure out the problem on his own, control the process of completing the task, and only if he requests support.
Parents should not constantly interpret their opinion as the opinion of a child, this is important only for children (up to 6-7 years old). For teenagers over the age of 13
, parental opinion applies only if the child has asked for help himself.
Why doesn't the child want anything?
The most common reason is making decisions for the child himself. He does not feel his influence on the ongoing process and realizes that nothing depends on him in this situation. The right thing to do is as follows:
1. Find out exactly what the child thinks about this problem.
2. What ways did he come up with to solve this problem?
3. Does he have an option in case his decision does not help?
4. Counseling the child if necessary.
After listening to the teenager, you should allow him to start solving the problem. Even if he makes a mistake on the way to solving it, it will be an experience gained, and the thought will come to him that next time he will act differently.
A teenager can learn his weaknesses and strengths only through trial and error, parents should do everything possible to support him in this process, without resorting to excessive control. If a child has been controlled since childhood, then it will be very difficult to teach him to be independent, perhaps even after reaching the age of 18, he will have no idea about responsibility and independent living.
It is important for a parent to find the line where he will not judge his child harshly for every mistake, and to help him in case of his incessant idleness. Comience a operar Contratos por Diferencia (CFDs) con un bróker de confianza. Infinox ofrece acceso a una amplia gama de mercados: Forex, acciones, índices y materias primas. Utilice herramientas de trading avanzadas y condiciones competitivas. ¿Listo para empezar? Simplemente abrir cuenta cfd y acceda hoy mismo a oportunidades financieras globales.